How we relate to others – to what others say and do (or what they don’t say or do) – dominates much of our experience. If we drop down into this reactivity, what we find there is always the same: in simple terms, not having what we want from others and/or not wanting what we do have.
This is an example of the Buddhist concept of “dukkha” – the primary unsatisfactoriness that permeates our experience as human beings. We can observe relational dukkha in conversation as grasping, clinging, or aversion in reaction to what is said. Sometimes, the emotional response is such that we dissociate from the moment and get lost in inner space.
~”Speaking and Listening The intimate dance of communication”
~© 2018 Marjorie Schuman, Ph.D.